by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
In just under fifty pages, Nigerian writer Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie makes a sharp argument as to why we should all be feminists (as if we weren't already believers). Based on a Tedx talk Adichie presented, this nonfiction account follows Adichie from childhood up to the present as she recounts the first time she heard the word "feminist," what the word really means, why both genders should be treated equally, and how this belief has changed her life.
Growing up in Nigeria, as a child a friend called Adichie a "feminist" as if the word itself signified something negative. Not knowing the word's meaning, Adichie went home and looked it up:
“I looked the word up in the dictionary, it said: Feminist: a person who believes in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes. My great-grandmother, from stories I’ve heard, was a feminist. She ran away from the house of the man she did not want to marry and married the man of her choice. She refused, protested, spoke up when she felt she was being deprived of land and access because she was female. She did not know that word feminist. But it doesn’t mean she wasn’t one. More of us should reclaim that word. The best feminist I know is my brother Kene, who is also a kind, good-looking, and very masculine young man. My own definition is a feminist is a man or a woman who says, yes, there’s a problem with gender as it is today and we must fix it, we must do better. All of us, women and men, must do better.”
Consequently, thinking about equality has been a profound focus of Adichie's time ever since.
Adichie speaks from her own personal experiences and shares stories about how females within her home country continue to suffer oppression because of their gender. She speaks about discrimination, inequality, injustice, and makes a powerful statement about why the feminist commitment to gender equality is necessary for both men and women's health and happiness. Her words are effective and convincing, and while Adichie's stance remains firm she never blasts the reader with overwrought rhetoric:
"A woman at a certain age who is unmarried, our society teaches her to see it as a deep personal failure. And a man, after a certain age isn’t married, we just think he hasn’t come around to making his pick."
"And then we do a much greater disservice to girls, because we raise them to cater to the fragile egos of males. We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls: You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful but not too successful, otherwise you will threaten the man. If you are the breadwinner in your relationship with a man, pretend that you are not, especially in public, otherwise you will emasculate him."
"We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, you can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise, you would threaten the man."
The book is short, clear, and despite its brevity is full of many quote-worthy lines. If you're still afraid of the term "feminist," please read this book so you can come to understand that fighting for gender equality should never be considered a bad word.
"I have chosen to no longer be apologetic for my femaleness and my femininity. And I want to be respected in all of my femaleness because I deserve to be."